12.15.2014

Valuable

Lately, I've been speaking to my sons a great deal about knowing their value, or what some would refer to as knowing your worth. A few days before we headed up the coast on our annual trek to Solvang, California, I sat down with them and told them how I grew up not knowing my worth, and that it wasn't until recently, that I discovered what makes Glenda valuable. I told them the pitfalls of not knowing what made me special or unique, and that if you don't get in touch with these very important attributes, others will place a value on you. Unfortunately, the value that others force upon you may be far less than your true worth and could be detrimental to your well-being. For myself, not knowing what made me unique, caused me to succumb to a hurtful past, and to just settle without really striving to reach my goals. I never felt like I was worth anything special.

My instructions to my sons were simple. I asked them to think about themselves...to dig deep and write down what makes them special, unique. "What is your value?" Then I told them that while we're on our drive to Solvang, I would ask them again, and this time, I want them to tell me what they have written down and why. As instructed, as we took our family drive, I asked my sons the question they had been waiting for. I was so proud to hear them read their list of attributes along with the reasons why they selected them. When we returned from our trip. I gathered their lists and created a wall-hanging that now proudly hangs in their individual bedrooms so that they can be reminded of what makes them valuable.

For today, as I reflect back on this special assignment, I think back on my own journey of discovering my own self worth. Many of you took that journey with me, and it was your kindhearted comments that cleared the way for me to see who Glenda truly is. She is so much more than a woman who adores fashion. She is a woman who looks to her future with anticipation; a woman who wants to blaze a trail for others to feel their very best about themselves; a woman who can look introspectively at herself and smile; she is a woman who knows that her life is full of amazing wonders. Glenda is a woman who is turning her wounds into wisdom!


Today's look represents my attributes and makes me feel wonderful. A crisp white shirt to show I mean business; a flirty and fun skirt that makes me feel free; my boots that carry me through the brush while I blaze trails; and gold accessories that remind me just how valuable this self knowledge truly is to have.


   
 





Now, with my head held high, I can conquer this world with all the confidence needed. Knowing your value is worth the weight in gold. So I ask you my dear friends, "Do you know what makes you special and unique?" "What makes you valuable?"{wink}

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38 comments:

  1. What an wonderful assignment for your sons. Also as a mother of two young men, I know how important it is that they know their true value, as so many other deemed them as being much less. #goodmommy

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    1. It is our responsibility as parents to instruct and teach them how important they truly are. Thank you Antionette!

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  2. My value is rooted in my faith...I am not a mistake...I am here for a reason...and I have value. These are the same lessons I taught my children. You are a wise mother....and a gorgeous one...to teach your sons their value. They can be confident leaders that way!

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    1. Thank you Pam! That is my hope for them. To train them in the way they should go.

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  3. This is a truly amazin post. Every parent needs to have this discussion with there children best believe its makes a difference.

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  4. Glenda your posts are always thought provoking. I was brought up to believe that I can do all things through Christ. Sometimes I tend to doubt myself but a good foundation like what you are doing with your kids goes a long way. I also remind my children to always stand tall, do the right thing, and as my dear old grandad would say "just let your yea be yea". Great read!!!!

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    1. Thank you Elsie! I learned a great deal from what I lacked growing up. I learned that I wanted to be an encourager to my children.

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  5. Dear Glenda,
    You are an amazing woman and an extraordinary human being. You have a gift and that is to inspire people through EVERYTHING you do. For me it is an honor to get to know you more and learn from you wisdom and very own self growth. People have no idea how important it is to make our children aware of their very own self value and to let them know how beautiful and magnificent they are. Like you, I grew up with lots of fears and not knowing how magnificent I truly was. It was after many years of suffering that I realized the truth and finally allowed myself to thrive and finally be me. It continues to be a day by day process but as we both know, self growth never stops. And yes, I remind my daughters everyday of how wonderful and amazing they are. They both are a gift from the skies. You look so radiant and beautiful in that white blouse, black midi skirt and tall boots today. Gorgeous as always, both inside and outside. Thanks for sharing such a wonderful post. XOXO, Jeannette

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    1. It is true that our gifts will make room for us. It took me 48 years to truly understand that meaning. If I had known this way back when...
      Nonetheless, as a parent, I want my sons to understand their value early on so that as they navigate through this life, they'll know that they're priceless.

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  6. I will try that with my stepson... he really is a tender heart. He just turned thirteen... and a couple days ago, I dozed off in my recliner. I felt him kiss me on top of my head <3 I hope he knows how special he is, how unusual....

    You look amazing, btw

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    1. That is truly touching. Thank you for sharing this with me :)

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  7. I love your look for external reasons (looking bloody good) as for internal reasons (a woman who has come into her own in confidence).
    Love the gold jewelley, especially the bracelet, and the boots, and... Oh well... the whole lot.
    Greetje

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  8. What a wonderful "exercise" for your sons, and one that will stay with them, I'm sure. The puffy sleeves really take this outfit beyond the usual white-blouse-black-skirt look. It's very dynamic and really suits you.

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    1. Thank you! I hope that they'll carry this knowledge with them and continue to understand and add to their list of values.

      The top is really a 3/4 inch sleeve, but I love to push them up. Like you said, its more dynamic.

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  9. Beautiful skirt and high boots. The white shirt has very nice wide sleeves...

    I find it difficult to answer to the question "what make you valuable?" now, but I think is a good starting to reflect on yourself ...

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    1. Yes Dan, spend some time reflecting on this subject. It's very eye-opening.

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  10. Simple, Classic, Perfection are the three words that come to mind. Now..I must try this with my 19 year old daughter. Your sons are blessed to have a Mom like you.

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    1. Thank you Delilah! I hope that it goes well with your daughter.

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  11. Love the classy b/w look on you, Glenda. Paired with the golden jewelry, you just look stunning.
    xox
    Lenya
    FashionDreams&Lifestyle

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    1. Sorry forgotten to tell ya, you already have seen me wearing the hat in one of the older post. About what you said about twitter, yep that's exactly what I thought it might be, lol. And then those tweets......one person followed me, two person unfollowed me........I don't get it, I mean, who cares? But maybe, I am just getting old, lol. hugs for you.

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    2. I don't get it either. I made the decision to jump on the social media bandwagon and opened accounts on just about every form, but I noticed that just a couple work for me.

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  12. Classy, 100% classy and not just the look! The way you talk to your sons and open up to them about serious topics, I truly admire that in you! I think it is important for our kids to understand their worth and be proud of who they are!

    xx Cara
    www.carascliche.com

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    1. Thanks Cara. It's important for me to have that type of relationship with my sons.

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  13. Beautiful outfit but an even more beautiful message, Glenda.

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  14. Talk about an inspiring piece of writing! I love how you do more than just blog about fashion. You go way way deeper than what's on the outside! That said, what's on the outside in this particular post does look FABULOUS! I love the puffy sleeves on that blouse, you wear them so well :-)

    P.S.: Love the header.

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    1. Thanks Melissa! I guess I feel it my personal quest to make others aware that fashion people also have much more under the surface.

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  15. Glenda I love what you wrote in your post and I'm so glad I am able to be witnessing your blossoming. Your advice to your sons was excellent. You are a wise mom. On to your outfit...I am a big fan of the black and white look. The sleeves are fabulous and the gold accessories make the outfit!

    Cherie
    http://www.stylenudge.com

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    1. Thank you Cherie. I try and I hope I'm being a good mommy to my sons. I adore them. This is turning out to be one of my favorite looks!

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  16. Hi Glenda!!!
    Great outfit!!! Love your blouse!!!!
    Your words made me cry! It's very important to feel that you valuable!!! Yes, it is true!!! Good advice to your sons!!! Big heart Glenda!!!
    Xoxo
    www.stilettoslauragonzalez.blogspot.com.es

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    1. Thank you Laura! Yes, learning from my own experience as a young girl, it is very important to let our children know their value.

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  17. So elegant, with a strong folk vibe, I really like this outfit, Glenda! I don't see you in gold often, it's a great impact. You are a wise thoughtful mother. We all have self-doubts and have to deal with them in order to become free. We all need reminders like that to love and appreciate ourselves for who we really are. It's easier then to love and appreciate others for who they really are. People who belittle us do it not because they sincerely think we are small. It's because they have not discovered their true greatness yet and struggle with it. It's our pain which causes us to harm others. It all begins within ourselves, I truly believe that. Sending you hugs xxx

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    1. Thank you Natalia. I felt like the outfit had a touch of folk and perhaps southwest. You are so right about the person doing the belittling not feeling good about themselves. It's just a shame that they feel the need to hurt others.

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  18. Oh Gkenda , what a magnificent post!
    It is true, especially for women I fear, that it is hard to know what one is worth. I think this is a dilemma especially for working women when we don't have that validating paycheck and when social media and traditional media sends all kinds of demanding and unrealistic messages.
    I am so glad that you have grown into the woman that you now are and I agree, that you truly are a woman who has become wise.
    Now to the more trivial things but not quite as much. I adore your white shirt and your playful black skirt and those boots are just gorgeous I love the ruffle detail.
    You are truly a trailblazer and I am enjoying watching as you kick up some major dust. Kisses, Elle
    http://mydailycostume.com

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    1. Elle, thank you so much. You are absolutely correct about the effects of social and traditional media. Unrealistic, indeed. It is my hopes that my sons will carry this knowledge with them throughout their lives, and perhaps add more attributes to their lists. I'm very proud of them. I learned something valuable from the way in which I was raised, and I vowed to never repeat that mistake. It is crucial that we encourage our children.

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