8.26.2014

Road Closed

Road Closed is #3 in a series: Stay Connected by following one or more of the networks at the end of this post.

During my transformational journey, a key observation I have made, is that, in life, on many occasions, the road I'm traveling on could be closed. Whether I have traveled some distance to find it closed ahead, or to just get going to immediately see the sign that says...ROAD CLOSED. Regardless, the inconvenience of it all can cause great disappointment, and leaving me to wonder - Must I take a detour around the closure, or, do I face the fact, that the place I was headed, is not open to me?

I have discovered, that road closures can represent two separate ideas, and it is up to the individual to determine what course of action to take:
  • First, realizing when a path taken just isn't meant to be, or 
  • Two, that getting to that destination is not going to be easy. 


Often times, when the path is not meant to be, there is still the knowing that regardless of its closure, there are plenty of other options available. It's a matter of switching gears and heading in a completely different direction. It takes maturity to embrace the fact that that particular road just isn't an option. And if it is not, there is the hope that something even greater is waiting beyond the horizon. I may not see it yet, but I just know there is something greater waiting for me. Then, on the other hand, the road closure may come with many detours that make getting to the destination longer and more arduous. But never fear, for I know that if I simply adapt patience and follow the detour signs, I am sure to reach my destination.

  


Dress: ASOS via eBay
Booties: Nine West via eBay (available on Amazon)
Scarf: Anthropologie (many seasons ago)
Wallet by Bosca


So today, I present myself dressed in an outfit that makes it easy to take that drive of uncertainty. Dressed for what I hope for, but prepared to make adjustments. If the journey gets too tough, I am prepared to free myself from unnecessary restraints that bind me. The colorful, patterned dress represents the many options available in life.  The scarf represents being an important part of the plan, or it can be viewed as restraining; a wallet that houses money and my identification; and the booties represent my stylish form of transportation. The road ahead may be more difficult, it may be easy, or it may be closed. But regardless...


  




I am prepared to enjoy the journey and keep on steppin'.

To be continued...{wink}

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Photographs by Freddy

44 comments:

  1. Life is a journey....

    Your scarf is adorable and i am crushing on your chelsea boots. Such perfect boots for a fit and flare dress. Gorgeous!!

    http://www.thefashionstirfry.com

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    1. Thank you Busola. The boots are a bit unexpected for me, but they fit with this story.

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  2. I can get frustrated when I think things are going right only to have them go increasingly wrong. I'm left flat and discouraged. But then we have to have faith that things correct themselves or our journey shows us a better way. Nice writing Glenda, I enjoy reading your posts.
    And such a cute dress! Love the patterns and colors with the unexpected scarf on top.

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    1. Yes, there are times when a path can be completely smooth and you arrive unscathed. Then other times, when you think you're using the same formula...the results can be the complete opposite. Life is so unique. Isn't it. After 48 years. I think I'm finally getting it. At least I hope. Joni, you are awesome!

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  3. As I am also facing a defining moment (turning a new decade!), I am really enjoying your recent posts on the subject of change and personal development. You also did such a beautiful job on the fall clothing job and I just wanted to say thanks for all your hard work.

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    1. Rebecca, wow, thank you. I am enjoying this journey of self discovery. At first it was met with much resistance, but I think I'm finally getting it. And I'm glad you enjoyed the Fall Fashion Guide. It was fun to create :)

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  4. I am right there with you Glenda...dressed for what I hope for, but not really knowing where I am headed. I find it so helpful to take life one day at a time. It keeps me from anxiety and facing too many road blocks. You are right, however, road blocks happen...doors close...but somewhere a window opens. Loved the post and you look so fun and stylish!

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    1. Thank you Pam! I guess life just wouldn't be that interesting if we always knew exactly where we were going and how we're getting there. But thank heavens for those open windows. They give so much hope.

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  5. I like your point of view. And I love how the outfits are the visual representation.

    Pam

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    1. Pam, thank you so much. I have always been able to visually express myself through fashion. I view myself as a canvas and I just have at it :)

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  6. Another Great post my dear and as usual you have key points for us all. I love this. . ."it takes maturity to embrace the fact that a particular road just isn't an option." I have been there so many times and had to think twice about the detours. . . Thanks G!!!

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    1. Haven't we all Neti. I have even reached closed roads to take detours that left me confused. A keen spirit is a must in life. I'm learning that.

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  7. I am in love with this series and I love, even more, the way you look at road closures! Not to mention how incredibly chic you look while being so optimistic!

    xx Cara
    www.carascliche.com

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    1. Cara, it has taken many obstacles, many tears, and 48 years to finally get it. The journey continues. I am so glad you are enjoying the series. With each post I have an Ah Ha moment.

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  8. Thank you for sharing this beautiful post! Life is a journey and we often forget that we are here to enjoy it despite the obstacles we may face. I love your style and can't wait to explore you blog!

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    1. Welcome and I hope you enjoy the style journey called So What to Twenty!

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  9. I love how your photos go with the story... :-) When I read spiritual and insightful things like this I sometimes feel a bit silly, with my superficial writings ;-)

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    1. Don't feel silly, Melissa. This is my way of self expression.

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  10. A great post. I think I've hit that place in life where I'm spinning around going, ok, what now?

    I just don't look as great while doing it...

    Love that you're going gray, I am too. After almost 30 years, I want to see my real hair color.

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    1. My silver hair is met by stares from when in our age group. I believe they probably have 1 or more thoughts. One being... I wish I had the courage to go natural. Or, why on earth doesn't she dye it. Regardless, I'm happy with my decision.

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  11. Your dress...the whole outfit is pretty and fits perfectly with "the drive of uncertainty".

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  12. Love the print in your dress. And, another great post. It's the switching gears that hangs me up. The Fall Guide is on point too!
    http://www.robincharmagne.com/blog

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    1. Thanks Robin. I agree with switching gears being difficult.

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  13. You are right with your story. If you focus, really focus, you have so much more chance of reaching your destination. As a set-back will only be a set-back, a minor hinch, but never a reason to give up. The focus will make that you perceive set-backs differently.
    As for the dress, I am sorry Glenda, this time it is not my taste. Which was bound to happen as we are two different people. But that is just my taste, nothing else. No further judgement on the dress. The booties however, are totally my taste. Gorgeous.
    Greetje

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    1. Focus, focus, focus. Sometimes I focus so hard that my vision becomes blurred. Thank you for your honest opinion, Greetje.

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  14. Glenda a great post and very interesting ! I love this outfit , the dress is fab ! and the touches off the boots and scarf are very chic ! Best wishes to you.

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    1. Lesley, thank you. I thought the scarf and boots made it look for appropriate for a drive ;)

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  15. Your posts really are awesome. I spent some time in the U.S when I was in my early 20s and I've never forgotten the atmosphere that my American female friends would create when we all hung out and really talked about what was actually on our minds! Sadly, the culture in my country is not so much orientated to open sharing and it's something I really miss.
    I recently watched an Abraham/Hicks dvd - not endorsing or not-endorsing it, it was just interesting - that said something along the lines of "we are never complete and it is never finished". I rather liked that.

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    1. What a profound quote...we are never complete and it is never finished. Thank you for sharing this with me, Kate!

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  16. I love the fall outfit on you Glenda. Looks kinda girlish, if you know what I mean. Gorgeous dress, great pairing with the scarf.
    hugs
    Lenya
    FashionDreams&Lifestyle

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  17. Glenda, I can't begin to tell you how many times I've read through this wonderful message, as well as shared with with numerous friends. It's a privilege reading your words and seeing your unique style to go along with them. Thank you dearly for sharing your talents with us.

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    1. Trina, your message is very sweet. Thank you so very much. Have a lovely weekend!

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  18. I'm your fan, Glenda, and you are my personal coach {wink}

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  19. Lilac looks so good on you! Really like your hair as well. But more than anything, I enjoy to read about your journey. I can relate to many of your topics lately, Glenda. The butterfly symbolism is one of my favorite one, and we discuss things like personal transformation a lot with Justin - to be perfectly honest, with no one else I can find this understanding, at least not in "real life", so it was a bit of surprise to read about it on your blog. Road closure is something I've been experiencing myself these days, and on the one hand it was almost a relief to decide to let it go, and on the other hand, it is still a struggle to accept it and relax about it. I think the best things happen when we are relaxed and natural, and trusting the process of life. I know it is so with me. I am totally up for a change. I think life is a change, when we stop changing, we die. If not physically, we die on the inside, or we fall asleep on the inside, and it's a sad thing to see in others. I am happy to discover that you are so alive on the inside, and I celebrate your process with you, even though I know it is a difficult one to embrace. But there is a light at the end of the tunnel, we just have to keep being real and honest - more than anything, honest with ourselves. Hugs!

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    1. Natalia, you have been missed. I was so excited to receive notice that you had left message on this post! You will be very surprised to see that your comment was so apropos for my message today. My road closures have been mostly in my head, and my way of dealing with a painful past. That is why I am choosing to live my life for today. Not that I'm forgetting the past, but I'm choosing to not let it be my present.

      I hope you're back!

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  20. Love this series Glenda. You use beautiful metaphors and write so well as you consider your options. And which doors to open. I adore the medallion print dress with the colorful medallions . It is a luscious print. The scarf is a soft and stunning shade that I hope softens the road ahead, the bold shoes describe to me the confidence you feel as you embark. Outside, to the new word.. Somehow with these boots on I see you opening up roads that were previously closed...
    XX, Elle
    http://mydailycostume.com

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    1. Elle, this is very touching to read. Thank you so much!!

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  21. Glenda. I a looking forward to seeing this when. I get hike to my MacBook . Wish I could,access it on my ioad... Oh well, something to look forward to !
    XX, Elle
    Sorry about typo, I meant ipad
    http://mydailycostume.com

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