3.09.2014

Ladylike

Ladylike: appropriate for or typical of a well-bred, decorous woman or girl. Synonymous with being elegant, well-mannered, cultivated, polished, decorous, genteel, polite.

To be refined, well-mannered and elegant conjures up images, in my mind, of women, who in history, were respected for their ease of sophistication. Women like Babe Paley, Dorothy Dandrige, C.Z. Guest, Jackie Kennedy, Princess Grace of Monaco, Lena Horne, and Audrey Hepburn (just to name a few) would appear before us in all their polished splendor. Though not in the generation of these women, I still devour information that pertains to their well-cultivated lifestyles. I marvel at their polished appearances and yet, I admire how they took leading roles in many of history's ground-breaking events. They exuded internal beauty and strength.

As time moved forward, women began to view being referred to as ladylike as insulting to the many triumphs that have been accomplished over the decades. Now, to be described in such a manner could result in having to defend ones self, and to challenge the following statement - To be referred to as ladylike sets women back 100 years. In current days, we can only grasp hold to such an existence by way of dress, not as a way of being. I often fear that by stating my wanted way of life - retaliation from the opposition is imminent.

Today's look is dedicated to the women of today, and in the past, who set the precedence of refined elegance that demonstrates a genteel and quiet strength from within.

Today's look: Sheer Silk Top (vintage); Skirt - H&M (in store), Shoes by Michael Kors, Lace Clutch (vintage), Swirling Silver Ring (custom made), Polish is Vanessa by Zoya


"I often wonder if more women were willing to be ladies,
would more men feel challenged to be gentlemen?"
Unknown



"Chivalry isn't dead. 
It just followed where ever being ladylike went."
Unknown

 

Am I strange for wanting to possess such traits? Consider me odd, but I can't quite figure out why being cultivated, decorous, genteel or polite are such horrible qualities. Would one rather be uncultured, coarse, and rude? Then again, maybe I just answered my own question. As I think about this topic, it appears that the latter is just what society leans toward. In this current day, we celebrate the abrasive, and the brash. This saddens me and I refuse to fall victim to such a way of life. After all, to be ladylike, in my opinion, isn't a quality that places one in a feeble position. On the contrary, in my opinion, this could be one of the most powerful positions that exist. If you let it be{wink}

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64 comments:

  1. You look very lady like Glenda. The skirt is divine. I was thinking of getting the dusty pink one, but was sold out in my size at the store.
    Happy Sunday girl
    xox
    Lenya
    FashionDreams&Lifestyle

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    1. Oooo dusty pink? I didn't see that color. How pretty it must be. I did buy a pink cardigan from a vintage shop this weekend :)

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    2. Seems like it's sold out almost everywhere. Even online :-(

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    3. You may find something similar.

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    4. probably. Glenda if you wanna see the dusty pink one, I did a little research and it's still available at the Mexican H&M online store. For some reason I am not able to post the link, got always an error, duh!

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  2. You are very Ladylike and you look Great & sexy in that top.

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    1. Thank you! It's one of my favorite tops. I don't wear it much because the silk is very fine.

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  3. Glenda, I have followed you long, but since I have, you seem to very much embody the word LADY! You always look lovely! I wish my teenage students cared more about what it means to be a lady!

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    1. You are very sweet Pam and I thank you for such kind words. Yesterday I placed a comment on a Google+ post and was told to F-off by a young lady. How times have changed.

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    2. Whaaattt? Oh my goodness, not only extremely rude, but very unkind!

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    3. Yes Sue...it was very unnecessary.

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  4. I agree with you completely Glenda. I favor a ladylike style as you do. I just think it looks good and this outfit is lovely, mature, stylish and always respectful of oneself. Beautiful top and perfect shoe. The full skirt is beautiful and looks comfortable while chic! Great post!

    blue hue wonderland

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    1. Thank you Ann! I felt very comfortable in the entire outfit. I love dressing as a woman. It feels right to me :)

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  5. You're a gorgeous lady, Glenda, with elegant taste! Thanks for sharing with Visible Monday.

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    1. You're welcome Patti, and thank you :)

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  6. What a wonderful sentiment, and it certainly reflects in your beautiful outfit! I think you can be genuine and still be ladylike. Let's keep it going strong ;-)

    Alicia
    spashionista.com

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    1. Thank you Alicia. Yes, let's keep it going strong :)

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  7. Excellent words! I think the qualities that you're associating with ladylike could also be called good manners, and grace. And you seem to possess those qualities - I can see it in your calm demeanor. Just lovely!

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    1. Wow, Val, thank you. I felt at ease with this ensemble. It just felt right.

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  8. Great post, beautiful outfit on a lovely lady.

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  9. Glenda, I love everything about this outfit and it is indeed very ladylike. These are superb qualities to have and you definitely possess them.

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  10. Yes, you look so gentile and ladylike, I love the top and I am sure hubby labeled this as one of his favorites as well.

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    1. Thank you Antionette! He just looked me up and down and said, "You look nice." I think he liked it though because he took such great pictures.

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  11. Glenda, I want to be odd along side of you. I can't think of a better compliment than when others describe a woman as ladylike. This was a wonderful, insightful post and you portrayed every virtue of a woman who is ladylike.

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    1. Trina, there is nothing wrong with being a little odd ;)

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  12. Glenda,I. Completely agree, the lady like qualities are those which I hope are preserved ! Polite refinement , and good composure can go along way to make the world a gentler, better place. I happen to love that gorgeous outfit, the details of the blouse, billowy and soft, and the contrast of the textured skirt in ebony.. Intersting contrast and. Symbolic of what you say here today,. Long live the lady!
    XX, Elle

    http://mydailycostume.com

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    1. Here. Here. Long live the lady!

      Thank you so much Elle :)

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  13. Glenda, you are always so classy and ladylike yet fashion forward! Love all of your looks and this one is just beyond!

    xx Cara
    www.carascliche.com

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    1. Cara, when I first discovered your blog, you were wearing a similar skirt as this one. I never forgot the skirt and searched until I found one. Your style is beyond beyond :)

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  14. I agree there is nothing at all wrong with being ladylike . Your lovely off shoulder blouse and full skirt is very feminine and looks wonderful on you.

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  15. Your outfit is all about embracing a fine warm weather. You do it so gracefully in this outfit and i love it. Beautiful look.

    http://www.thefashionstirfry.com

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  16. Refined elegance. That's perfect. That's exactly what I think when I see you. Excellent outfit in every way.

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  17. I love the quotes today Glenda! Really, when did ladylike and gentlemanly behavior go *out of style*? You and Ann always looks so feminine and ladylike in your outfits...great inspiration every post! As Connie says, refined elegance...that's our Glenda!

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    1. Hmm, Sue, I can't recall when it did go out of style. Let's put it back in style and make it a classic so that it'll remain with us forever! Thank you for your kind words :)

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  18. Well Glenda - i always said that you will get a lot more out of life being Ladylike - Being coarse and rude doesn't get you anywhere in life - I think you are the epitome of style Glenda!

    Tks for telling me that my personnal style blows you away! That's a wonderful compliment!

    Arianexo

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    1. Thank you Ariane, your style is super unique and I love it!

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  19. Lady-like is back and in full flower. Women like you are showing up and out. And it makes me so happy! Isn't it interesting how conservative can become revolutionary in a hot-fashion-minute? I hope you don't give the opposition a moment's notice. Who could rightfully oppose such thoughtfulness? Lovely in all ways, and a pleasure to see.
    I've always understood that there is a time and place for assertiveness in our responses as women,(and even abrasiveness in extreme circumstances) but it takes self knowledge and a measured approach to do it effectively and with grace. That's ladylike, and you remind us of that at all times.
    Excellent post, again.

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    1. Absolutely Jan. I recall my mother making a major point but always with a smile on her face.

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  20. You look wonderful Glenda! The fabric and cut of your skirt is gorgeous and very elegant! I love the slightly off shoulder top, great look! Hugs, Beata xxx

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  21. U are Very lovely & elegant.
    I admire all those women you mention they were that and more!
    One my fav looks to dress up!! :-))

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  22. I'm definitely with you on this Glenda....great post, great look!!!

    Rebecca
    www.redtagchiclosangeles.com

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  23. This whole look speaks to me - so chic and elegant! And the shoes are perfect! Really lovely!

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  24. Lovely look, Glenda. When I 1st stumbled upon your blog, "ladylike" and "chic" were the 2 words that stuck out to me. I love how true you are to your personal style. Great post! Thanks for linking up...xo!

    ~Whitney
    www.whitneynicjames.com

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  25. You know that I am loving this ladylike attire - Hopped over from What to Wear to Work with Whitney!

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  26. Love it! The fab outfit, the quotes, the thought process...everything about this post. I came over from What to Wear to Work with Whitney.
    www.crystal-blake.com

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    1. That makes me smile. I'm glad you liked it!

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  27. Gorgeous outfit and so pretty on you!

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  28. I agree with you! To be ladylike does not mean one is weak. I was raised to be ladylike though the term was nor particularly used. My mother believed that life was easiest if one knew how to handle whatever might be thrown at you. I was raised to have social skills and good manners and never did I ever develop the impression that to be ladylike was inferior in any way. I was raised to have manners, to be aware of how I might be able to put others at ease and make them more comfortable and to be subtle, tactful, diplomatic but firm and to handle what comes at me with good grace.

    I love your outfit; it's very pretty. I love peasant blouses, and have always had a strong affinity for white blouses (blouses as opposed to the currently ubiquitous button down shirt) The strong colours -or rather non colours- really suit you. While I love both white and black I am never comfortable wearing them together.

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    1. Hi Shawna, my mother gave me the same wisdom. I remember her speaking her mind, but never raising her voice.

      I too have a great affinity for the white blouse. I'm glad you like the outfit.

      Thank you for such a thoughtful comment. I really appreciate it!

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  29. I think your outfit looks very good, very chic, very feminine, very elegant. Nothing wrong with that. On the contrary. But I tend to differ on the subject of wanting to be ladylike. To me it also sounds too much "as if I have to keep my mouth shut because at a given time it is not the place (or time) for a lady to speak". It sounds too much like keeping me in my place and that is not the place I want to be. Without being harsh, coarse or rude.
    Oh well, so many people, so many opinions.
    Greetje

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    1. I get your point Greetje. I always cringe when I hear an abrasive woman. I remember my mother getting her point across without raising a voice. We knew she meant business.

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    2. I admire people who can do that. They are the onces people respect the most. It is a gift.

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