1.23.2014

Having Style vs. Being in Style - Glenda's Perspective

"Fashion fades, only style remains the same."
Coco Chanel

Fashions fade, style is eternal.' - Yves Saint Laurent

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"Fashion fades, style is eternal."
Yves Saint Laurent

Hello Lovelies!

Do you mind if I take a little detour today away from an outfit post to discuss a subject that stays on my mind?

Let me first begin by telling a little story...

Years ago and fresh out of fashion college, I began my career in the industry as a store manager with the Limited Corporation. Within a few months on assignment, I received a phone call that the store would be receiving a new assistant store manager named Katie. I hadn't met the young woman so I didn't know what to expect. The day finally came and Katie joined our team.

Katie was petite, wore Doc Martins (with just about everything), black tights, black flippy skirts, t-shirts, her wavy hair tied haphazardly in a ponytail...but there was something interesting, different, intriguing about this girl named Katie. She had what we say, that certain Je nais se qua - that certain intangible quality that you can't describe. All I know was that Katie's "certain something" had nothing to do with her wardrobe. Nor was it her makeup since she was fresh-faced. The distinctive quality that Katie possessed was indeed her own personal style.

The lovely and irreplaceable Audrey Hepburn

What is style? I have written about this very subject during a writing stint for a local newspaper. Style is ones own special and personal essence. It is unseen. You can't touch it. You definitely can't buy it. It's not hanging in a closet, nor is it sitting in a makeup jar on the vanity. Style, that mysterious, yet often misused word, is indeed intangible, but yet...it can leap off the pages or computer screen. I have been in and out of the fashion industry for well over 30 years, and during this time and into the present day, the word style is often misconstrued for meaning fashion, as if these two words were one in the same. I beg to differ. One can be in style with their clothing, but not have that certain attention grabbing style that makes others stand up and take notice.

Style is all encompassing to include every aspect of ones being -
it is what you exude to the world, often without knowing it.
G.K. Harrison
The United States First Lady of Camelot - Jackie Kennedy Onassis

I'm not here to discount the idea of the importance of fashion in our lives. I absolutely love fashion and have most of my life! I am here to say, that what you wear and how you wear something can indeed contribute to ones look. However, clothing is just a small part of the big picture. Sure, persons with that certain something always seem to have a unique approach to fashion; they usually don't follow trends, but somehow become trendsetters. And yet, when their fashion style is emulated by others, it often feels quite wrong by the emulator. Why is this? Because one cannot reproduce another persons style. It can't be done. Because that certain something belongs only to them.

The ever intriguing Lupita Nyong'o


So yes, one can definitely be in style by wearing the latest trends, but I don't agree that just because one is in style - that they have that type of style that makes them stand out with that distinctive factor. Can you define that distinctive factor? Probably not, but hey, that just adds to their intrigue{wink}

 
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38 comments:

  1. One can learn to be fashionable, by wearing "on trend" items, but that doesn't make them truly stylish. I totally agree with you about the hazard in copying someone else's style. We can and should observe, but then extract what would work for ourselves and interpret it with our own taste. Great subject and post!! Thanks.

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    1. Yes, Jennifer, I agree with you. A person whom is in touch with their own being truly knows how to decipher what works for them. Thank you for joining in!

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  2. Great post and pretty much agreed with everything you said.

    My thing is you either have style or you don't. Wearing designer items head to toe does not make one stylish. Being, like you said, in a style environment does not make you stylish. Someone who is stylish or has style generally knows different type of ways to make a clothing item work. It may not be your kind of style, like your ex co-worker Katie, but she's so put together and it works for her that it makes you appreciate what she's wearing.

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    1. Indeed Vivi! Katie's attire did give me glimpse to her world...a free-spirit who marched to the beat of her own drum. She was intriguing to say the least, and it was not her clothing that made her appealing. It was her total being. Thanks for your input!

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  3. I can not even begin to tell you how much I love this. I have seen so many woman from day to day that they truly will stop me in their tracks, they look unique and stunning at the same time but I know it is something that I could never pull off. Their personality, history, smile, way they walk, almost every other aspect besides the clothes, plays into the outfit they are wearing and it just works! A women that is confident and wears her cloths but doesn't let her clothes wear her, that is key! I can say hands down, without a doubt, you are one of the women I speak of, you have this amazing eye that is completely you, looks incredible but hasn't been seen. That is why I enjoy your blog so much.

    xx Cara
    www.carascliche.com

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    1. Cara, my California Friend, this truly made me cry. I believe the very same about you. Thank you for stopping in today. I really appreciate it!

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  4. This has to be one of my favorite posts! I am a true believer that a woman creates her style with her confidence, not just by following trends. A lot of what you have written is what inspired me to start my blog now as a forty something. Love the inspirational quotes in your posts ;-)
    xo,
    Monica
    http://glamvolution.blogspot.com

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    1. Hi Monica and thank you! I'm glad you enjoyed this post. I had it on my mind for months, but finally had the courage and energy to get the words onto the blog. Style is a subject that is very interesting to me. I love visiting museums so that I can people watch. I find that people are the most fascinating pieces of art that exist!

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  5. Cara's right..you have It, the je ne sais quois...

    A very thoughtful post Glenda. Thank you. I have a sew along coming up and the theme is favourite fashion icon, and I have been perusing the web googling fashion icons. I keep coming back to this sense that I am my own, I and can not use the word icon, but my own style maker. I feel like my choices are starting to truly come from within. I'd value your input...do you see my style has somehow emulating either Audrey, or Diane Keaton, or anyone??? Okay, I know that is totally the wrong way to go about it...one follows a style icon intentionally. But help me please! :)

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    1. Sue, I am touched that you're asking me! Oh my...I feel so honored. When I first saw you on a link-up, I was drawn to your smile. It was the picture of you leaping in the air. You were wearing orange. I remember and still do feel that you have a fun, quirky spirit, and that it exudes from within. I wouldn't compare you to anyone but Sue. I like Sue...Sue is an excellent choice :)

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    2. Agree! Sue is YOU, Sue!
      Then again, that traveling Yellow Skirt shoot you did -- not that Snow White would be your Style Icon -- hopefully you know what I mean.

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  6. Great post Glenda. Some have it, others don't. As I said before, you are one of those. You don't follow trends, with each outfit you create yourself.
    hugs
    Lenya
    FashionDreams&Lifestyle

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    1. Nah Lenya, I think what you see in a 40 something woman who knows what works and doesn't for her lifestyle. I'm glad you liked the post and I really appreciate your input!

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  7. Excellent post, Glenda! Couldn't wait to see what you had to say on this subject. Your thoughts illuminate and clarify for me the reasons I use many more references to "style" than to "fashion" in my own writing and thinking. I've always known that my little short person will never achieve fashionable-ness in the way than taller, thinner women might. And at this point in life, it's likely that I'll never achieve a fashionable wardrobe in the way that a more affluent woman might. But I also figured out early on that I'm no different than most women on both counts. We can absolutely have style, and even tall, skinny, affluent women have to work to achieve that. The playing field of personal style is much more level than the heights of fashion.
    And it seems to me, after a certain age, the consideration of personal style becomes much less about building or defining one's own style than it is about expressing the fully matured self. Style happens. Fashion, as you consistently demonstrate, can be just one very entertaining tool of expression, but certainly not the only tool. You are such a great example of that. Your clothing choices reflect a gracefulness of spirit that I admire a lot, and a confident understanding of yourself that is very appealing.

    I love your precise writing on the subject. It takes a thoughtful writer to clarify "je ne sais quoi" !
    I had a good time considering the topic!

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    1. Jan, your writing is so beautiful. I so enjoy reading your words. Thank you for commenting on this post. You are so correct by stating that weight and height has absolutely nothing to do with style, nor being fashionable. I never equated thin-ness with being fashionable. Unfortunately, it is what this industry admires in a body type. I love the subject of style because it is so much deeper than what we use to cover our bodies. Style is so hard to define but if one has the ability to delve deeper into a persons life, it could be better understood. Style reminds me of an intricate tapestry that we find in the museums. I'm drawn to them because as you know, they are not just ornamental. I love how each thread color, and every detail tells us a complete story of the king or emperor that the tapestry represents.

      Thank you for commenting Jan. I really appreciate your input!

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  8. I completely agree. There's a quote I read recently that sums it up perfectly
    Fashion is what you buy, Style is what you do with it.

    www.highheelsandtutus.com

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    1. Aw, that's a great quote Jodi. I'll have to remember that! Thank you so much for your input.

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  9. I am so in agreement with this post. I think a lot people confuse being fashionable and on trend with having style. Style is about the essence of who we are as individuals and you can't buy that.

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  10. Glenda! Oh yes, I love the Bible. Thank you for sharing your feeling. I'm going to kick cancer to the proverbial curb and run over uts junk! Thank you!

    I COMPLETELY agree with your post. Style is your own. Style is what I share on my blog. I consider myself a thrift-stylist. That all makes perfect sense to me. You are a SMART cookie.♡

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    1. Yes you are Renae, and you're going to win!

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  11. such a great post! its so true and i agree with everything. style is what comes natural to you and what draws you in. trends are always changing. 'style is eternal'

    http://thegirlwiththepaintedpout.blogspot.com/

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    1. Thank you Lavinia for your input. I really appreciate it!

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  12. Totally agree with this post! Wearing "stylish" clothes and having a personal style are two very different things!

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  13. Great conversation, Glenda! You are so right...style is about the messages we desire to send with our clothing...once we decide what those messages are, then we can better select the clothing...it really has nothing to do with trends, though they are fun to read about and ponder if they fit into our own personal style. Good work!

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  14. Great post Glenda. I couldn't agree more. They aren't "slaves to any particular label", they don't duplicate and they are not necessarily trendy. You hit the nail with the hammer.
    “Fashion is not necessarily about labels. It’s not about brands. It’s about something else that comes from within you.” ~Ralph Lauren
    www.fashionablyfab.com

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    1. Thank you Natasha for your input. I really appreciate it!

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  15. Glenda, I love, love, love this post! Thank you for speaking to the topic of style.

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  16. I so agree! Just because someone wears all the latest dress doesn't mean they have a natural sense of style. Some people just have that little something that makes them unique and makes them stand out. Some people just always get it right.

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    1. Yes, you are so right Melissa! Thank you so much for your input on this subject :)

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  17. Delightful post, my dear! I have enjoyed every single word ( and photo ) of it! I definitely agree...

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  18. perfectly said I am glad you made the important distinction between fashion and style . I do that style is about the inner you radiating outwards, whereas fashion is taking something external , and trying it on... You, Glenda, have style!
    XX, Elle
    http://mydailycostume.com

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    1. Aw, thank you Elle! And so do you Carrie Bradshaw. Um...I mean Elle :)

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